Is there such a thing as "too much kindness?"

I just received my copy of Barbara Oakley's new book Cold-Blooded Kindness: Neuroquirks of a Codependent Killer, or Just Give Me a Shot at Loving You, Dear, and Other Reflections on Helping That Hurts. Now, that is some subtitle. The book, I must say, is awesome. Okay, I wrote a blurb for it (along with Joyce Carol Oates and Steven Pinker who felt the same way) basically saying as much, but it really is a fascinating read from start to finish.

The book tells the story of Carole Alden who murdered her husband and asks some pertinent questions that no one else ever seems to ponder: "Is kindness always the right answer? Is kindness always what it seems?"

Oakley uses science to help us explore the darker motives behind excessive kindness. I am interviewing her for a PJTV show soon and hope to share more with you.

Have any of you experienced someone who was "overly kind" to the point where you felt they were actually destructive?